Have you ever been in a situation that left you feeling like you did something wrong or that nothing you do is good enough? Maybe a situation that left you feeling excluded and wondering how you can fix it? What if I told you that often times situations, other’s behavior towards you, particular outcomes or whatever circumstances may actually have nothing to do with you.
Many of us are in desperate need of embracing ourselves. Because we know ourselves so well, we don’t think we measure up and our self-esteem and self-appreciation is low.
Instead of being our own best friend, we become victims of a paralyzing fear. We’re fearful of our need to always be right, of our drive for power, or our need to manipulate others to get what we want. And our past mistakes make us fearful about what we might say or do under pressure. If we treated our friends the way we treat ourselves, putting down strengths and emphasizing mistakes, we wouldn’t have any friends left...
Let’s talk about social media for a minute. Every now and then I need the reminder that social media is everyone’s “highlight reel” and nowhere close to real life. It’s so easy to get caught up scrolling through your newsfeed consciously or subconsciously creating our own opinions of ourselves and maybe even seeing how we measure up to others.
What are some steps we can take to evaluate the impact of social media on our lives?
You’ve got an inner voice that has a running dialogue about life that can determine if you feel positive or negative.
Called self-talk, this is the inner voice that has opinions about everything, and those opinions can make a big difference in how you view life. You have an average of about 6,000 thoughts a day, most of which you habitually repeat to yourself. In many cases, you learned to think these thoughts from experiences with your primary caregivers in childhood, and have been repeating them from that time. As you can imagine, many of these thoughts no longer serve you.